Monday, July 02, 2007

VIRGINITY

This is not a sexist article. This is about both sexes… is that sexist? I’m not sure… but I’d like to set out there, the fact… that HARD fact about virginity.

GUYS
You see, it’s like this… guys are never virgins. At least they don’t claim to be… in most cases, anyway. Go on, ask a guy. Ask any guy is he’s a virgin. 90% virgin guys will deny being one. Most responses to this question go along the lines of “heck no” or “fuck no” and all kinds of other “no”s. In the rare cases that they DO agree that they are a virgin, its around girls and they want something out of the girl, such as a chance to get into her pants. Hoping that the girl will like him for his “honesty” and sympathize with him and let him ride her for the two seconds that he will. But NEVER around guys, because its “emasculating”.

True story: I know two… no, make that three guys who accept their virginity. But to be totally fair, one of them is clinically depressed, the other one is an uber geek, and I’m not certain about the next one’s sexuality. I realized, as I JUST wrote the last sentence that… damn, I got some fucked up friends! Seriously… funny I never noticed that before… meh. Takes one to know one, right?

GIRLS
Girls, on the other hand, are ALWAYS virgins. Never once will a girl claim to be otherwise… well, Maldivian girls anyway… because they are afraid of being given the label of “slut” or “whore” or something that’s relevant to that category. My theory is, this façade is a girls’ tool of “survival” in the community. I mean, if you care so much about having a clean name, why sleep around? Sometimes girls even don’t tell even their closest friends. That’s fucked up right there. I heard that the infamous “Naraka Fareedha” still moans “dear God, my virginity!” when she’s being “explored”.

True story: I know a guy… lets call him John. He met a girl… ummm … Cindy. So John started talking to her and Cindy claimed to be a virgin, but I knew otherwise, because I knew her Ex, Matt. Matt had told me about his ‘conquest’. Anyways, I didn’t tell John this, because it wasn’t any of my business. But then John came and told be about his ‘expedition’ on Cindy. I’m sparing you the details. John wasn’t that merciful on me. But here’s the kicker in this story… John and Cindy broke up shortly after. And purely by coincidence, Cindy was being called by Steve, another friend of mine. (I know too many people) anyways, and she told Steve she was a virgin too. Thus, the myth of the female virginity.

This observation is just one factor of society. Such is the hypocrisy of the human nature.

22 comments:

bulhaa said...

who the heck is 'naraka fareedha' ??

virginity is a dying breed. a day will come that people would pay millions to be seen with an ACTUAL virgin.

Zoe said...

Never heard of this "Naraka Fareedha". :/

Agree's with bulhaa. :) Endangered breed!!! Heck, someone save the virgins. :@

xs said...

u r right..it's not a sexist article..n i totally agree with u..but just think abt y girls lie abt their virginity...it's becoz they ARE victims of sexism...a guy proudly declares the loss of his virginity becoz if he hasn't, he's a LOSER, whereas if a girl admits to having had sex, she's labelled SLUT, WHORE, etc etc...what a shame...!

Shy said...

Well done Iya!! For once I 100% agree with u wen it cums to being judgemental about the differences btwn males and female!
Yes no matter wher u go in the world guys will rather die than admit their a virgin...and for girls in male ther all virgins*roll* and yes they neva tell ther closest friends they`ve lost their virginity as well ur so tru..they`ll only let uno if they end up pregnant!! Huh however wen i was in NZ if u wer +16yrs and a virgin u wud be considered either butt ugly girl or just a freak. The complete opposite of Male huh!!! Whos seen the virgin suicides??? hehe

schmartypants said...

i will also ask "naraka fareedha"???? O.o

anyway ur rite.. nice post.. but u knw seems like this cindy is being recycled between ur friends dho..

virgins..yeah dyeing breed.. it doesnt really matter to me anyway.. not in the context society judges womens virginities..anyway

Shanu said...

I think first we need to define virginity here.. the definition has changed for all practical purposes.. :)

tinkerrrbell said...

nice one!! hehe..v tru aslu...both guys n galss!

vincinity of obscenity said...

thank yooo guyz!!

None of you guys know naraka fareedhaa? daim! she is a woman who likes to "open up" to people. a lot. so much that ppl say she has a reserved place in hell. thus "naraka" fareedhaa. seriously, i have been hearing that name since i was in grade 9.

thanks for all ur opinions and thoughts. stay tuned, i think i can feel inspiration creeping up on me.

vincinity of obscenity said...

@schmartypants:: cindy was purely coincidential. i knew matt, john and steve, but they didnt know each other.

.mini said...

hehe.. i also dunno whu's naraka fareedha

but ive met tonnes of guys whu said that they were virgins.. so i might have not met a MAN yet :P

dunno about girls though.. i don't ask girls about their virginity :s

i like the last part :P
majaa!

Anonymous said...

24 and a virgin. got a gf too. more than one year into the relationship.

Anonymous said...

Im amazed that maldivians find the privacy to have sex at all before marriage.

vincinity of obscenity said...

@ anonymous#1:: ur a patient guy arent u? kudos, i guess...

@ anonymous#2:: dude, if u live in the maldives, u know how to find privacy. either that or u dont go out much, do u?

...a M H a R ™... said...

eyy..i proudly say i am a virgin too..keke. nice article..and soo true i say

anonymous#1 said...

RE to vincinity of obscenity.

thanx. i wouldn't in paricular call me a patient guy. but i always thought it this way... i know dat the temporary sexual pleasure is not worth committing adultery. and dat i would regret if i do it before marriage.

// quite a nice blog u got here. i wud like to link ur blog in // my blogroll.

vincinity of obscenity said...

@ anynoymous #1 :: i woulod be honored. if u have a blog i'd like to know the link.

@amhar:: good that ur proud... errr... yippee...?

anonymous#1 said...

thanx. currently im doing some major upgrade work on my blog. so its not available at the moment. will post you the link soon after im done. cya

kaiza shozey said...

awesome blog dude. but ive met a couple of guys who are keen on claiming that they are virgins. there was this one guy who seriously made a statement that he was a virgin just a day before his baby was born*he wasnt married and ppl didnt know abt the baby till it was born. dont ask.its complicatd*. but luckily he's married now and i dont THINK he'd claim to be a virgin anymore. but who knows, he still might.
nowadays some guys are realising that girls dig guys who are virgins over the ones who arent cos well, like u said earlier almost everyone claims he's not. virigns are scarce u know. but mainly they admit they are virgins to the gal they wanna be serious with and not to the flings cos they seem to be turned on with guys who's had experience as a plus point ;)

Maldivian Critique said...

Hey, I'm writing an article about this article in my blog here. :-) Just a heads-up.

Thom said...

Rannamaari would be disappointed if he ever decided to come back to Maldives :p
I think we'd have to start dishing out men instead.
Maldives breeds some of the most promiscuous women I have ever met. Which makes the hypocrisy all the more prominent I suppose :P. You can't really blame them though, chicks don't really have much entertainment in these parts...
One of the coolest blogs I've come across :D

foniboki said...

NO, I'm a virgin and I'm not a loser.

Rannamaari said...

i met naraka fareedha a long long time ago... *sigh* good times (A)

btw... would i be a looser too, just becoz i am a virgin too o.0